This is 30 (30 life lessons in my 30th year 1-10)
These points are in no particular order or ranking and some may be a little cliche...
1. "The simple secret is this: put your trust in the Lord, do your best, and leave the rest to Him." - Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin
This has been my life motto for over a decade. This WILL work out in the end. Trusting in God will help you through it even on your darkest days.
2. Try to do something good for your mind, body and soul everyday.
This was my new years resolution a few years back and I have tried to continue to apply it daily.
Some things I have done for my mind are: reading books, studying for school, learning a new skill, just relaxing and taking a mental break.
My body: healthy eating, 8 hours of sleeps, 100 oz of water, exercise
My soul: scripture study, daily prayer, watch conference videos, prepare lessons, write talks
3. Learn to manage your expectations. Better yet, don't have them and you'll be happier and less disappointed.
Having standards is fine, but don't expect people to live up to them. This applies to people, vacations, places, restaurants etc.
4. Get 8 hours of sleep every night ( or try too)
There will be exceptions, but 8 hours of sleep is important for you mind, body and emotions.
5. Don't worry, be happy
Easier said than done for me, but it's true. Don't stress or worry about things you cannot control. Recognize your triggers and developing coping strategies. Anxiety can be contagious and debilitating. Depression is real for some. Seek help if necessary.
6. Kindness costs nothing
Always be kind than necessary. Life is hard for EVERYONE, no matter how happy they may appear on social media. Have courage be kind. Be the earliest one to arrive to help set up parties or the last one to leave and help clean up. Write thank you notes.
7. Family is everything.
As dysfunctional as families are I will always remember my grandma saying this: "blood is thicker than water." Family will have your back no matter what, bail you out, give you the hard honest truth and secretly brag about you behind your back while taking $h!t to your face. If you immediate family sucks find friends who become like family.
8. You'll get by with a little help from friends.
Find "your people." Find your home team, ride or dies, and biggest cheerleaders. Even though it may sound like you hate each other through an outsiders perspective :). Make time to see them even when it takes multiple reschedules and location changes. If you don't live near your friends, text or call, try to meet up with them once in a while and you will realize that distance doesn't change anything. Quality relationships in life are important in life and should be treasured. By 30, you should know who your true friends are love and support them get rid of anyone else. Don't forget not only to find good friends you must also be a good friend.
9. It's okay to say no.
I am a people pleaser and a "yes" (wo)man, but through the years I've learned that saying no to something you don't want to do is fine. If people think less of you for it who cares, that is their problem not yours. It is not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is happy at the expense of your own happiness. This also can apply to friendships, relationships and career opportunities. Sometimes you don't have the bandwidth to do everything asked for, pick and choose what gives you the most joy.
10. There is no 30 year old checklist.
Who cares if you turn 30 and haven't found your dream career, don't own a home, or are married with 2.5 children and a 401k. It will be ok. You will be ok. Good things take time. Just refer back to points 1 and 3.
1. "The simple secret is this: put your trust in the Lord, do your best, and leave the rest to Him." - Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin
This has been my life motto for over a decade. This WILL work out in the end. Trusting in God will help you through it even on your darkest days.
2. Try to do something good for your mind, body and soul everyday.
This was my new years resolution a few years back and I have tried to continue to apply it daily.
Some things I have done for my mind are: reading books, studying for school, learning a new skill, just relaxing and taking a mental break.
My body: healthy eating, 8 hours of sleeps, 100 oz of water, exercise
My soul: scripture study, daily prayer, watch conference videos, prepare lessons, write talks
3. Learn to manage your expectations. Better yet, don't have them and you'll be happier and less disappointed.
Having standards is fine, but don't expect people to live up to them. This applies to people, vacations, places, restaurants etc.
4. Get 8 hours of sleep every night ( or try too)
There will be exceptions, but 8 hours of sleep is important for you mind, body and emotions.
5. Don't worry, be happy
Easier said than done for me, but it's true. Don't stress or worry about things you cannot control. Recognize your triggers and developing coping strategies. Anxiety can be contagious and debilitating. Depression is real for some. Seek help if necessary.
6. Kindness costs nothing
Always be kind than necessary. Life is hard for EVERYONE, no matter how happy they may appear on social media. Have courage be kind. Be the earliest one to arrive to help set up parties or the last one to leave and help clean up. Write thank you notes.
7. Family is everything.
As dysfunctional as families are I will always remember my grandma saying this: "blood is thicker than water." Family will have your back no matter what, bail you out, give you the hard honest truth and secretly brag about you behind your back while taking $h!t to your face. If you immediate family sucks find friends who become like family.
8. You'll get by with a little help from friends.
Find "your people." Find your home team, ride or dies, and biggest cheerleaders. Even though it may sound like you hate each other through an outsiders perspective :). Make time to see them even when it takes multiple reschedules and location changes. If you don't live near your friends, text or call, try to meet up with them once in a while and you will realize that distance doesn't change anything. Quality relationships in life are important in life and should be treasured. By 30, you should know who your true friends are love and support them get rid of anyone else. Don't forget not only to find good friends you must also be a good friend.
9. It's okay to say no.
I am a people pleaser and a "yes" (wo)man, but through the years I've learned that saying no to something you don't want to do is fine. If people think less of you for it who cares, that is their problem not yours. It is not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is happy at the expense of your own happiness. This also can apply to friendships, relationships and career opportunities. Sometimes you don't have the bandwidth to do everything asked for, pick and choose what gives you the most joy.
10. There is no 30 year old checklist.
Who cares if you turn 30 and haven't found your dream career, don't own a home, or are married with 2.5 children and a 401k. It will be ok. You will be ok. Good things take time. Just refer back to points 1 and 3.
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